Everyone can use a friend, but it isn’t always easy to make authentic friendships. Sometimes, it can be hard knowing where to even start when looking to branch out. Luckily enough, I have accumulated a wonderful group of people I’m glad to call my crew. So let’s get into it…how to make and keep friendships.
Put Yourself Out There
This tip seems easier said then done, but really the first step to any great relationship is a simple “hello.” It’s easy! Send a snapchat or talk to a new person you run into… what’s the worst thing that could happen? It might take a few tries, but by being bold and being kind you are bound to make a new buddy.
You Don’t Need to Settle
When I say “don’t settle”, I don’t mean “don’t hang out with anyone until you find your people”. To not settle means to know that good things are coming, and that it is okay to have friends that you wouldn’t consider yourself “besties” with. If your current group is nice, but you just wish for something different, think how your current group is like a stepping stone to help get you to your people. Trust me, they’re out there.
Reach Out to the Unexpected
We all have work, school, or sports friends that we say we would never hang out with outside of that particular setting…but what if you did hang out? Some of the people that make me laugh the hardest have been my school friends over the years. If you are looking for a new friend, give one of these friends a try! Again, what’s the worst thing that can happen?
I Like These People, Now What?
Continue to show your friends you care! Be a good listener, but also make sure that your voice and your needs are heard too. If you ever feel like you run out of fun things to do together, here are some ideas:
- Go on a walk (& bring your dog!)
- Bake together (my banana muffins are a go-to)
- Find a TV show & have watch parties (it isn’t too late to tune into the Bachelorette)
- Spend time outside (play a game, eat together, etc.!)
- Volunteer together! (especially this holiday season many local places need the support)
- Work out together (book a yoga class or go on a run)
Whatever your friendship journey may be, know that there is always a group for you, and that its quality > quantity for friends. Stay true to yourself, and know you are valued and worthy of all of the goodness life has to bring.